Showing posts with label Books. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Books. Show all posts

Monday, January 23, 2012

Building Better Girls

You may not have noticed, but there's a big "Blog Her" banner running along the top of this blog. When I signed up to be part of the Blog Her network, I didn't read the fine print on the contract, which said that 25% of these posts had to be original, i.e. not links to posts that run on other websites and in other publications. This morning, I received a pleasant little email from the folks at BlogHer, reminding me that I'm periodically supposed to post fresh material. I don't want to get thrown out of BlogHer, and not just because they throw a great annual conference in Manhattan. Women need women, writers need writers and I like being part of this group. With that in mind, here is fresh material. Thank you for reading.

Last weekend, I went with a group of women to a spa in the Berkshires. It was a lovely few days, full of vinyasa and restoration yoga, steam baths, clean towels, locker combinations, salad bars and hot food fixed by other people. My friend and I went for a walk in the snow one sunny afternoon but mostly we stayed inside. The weekend was a gift from my mother, who understands that mothers periodically need to get out from under. I didn't once put on makeup or wear anything but workout gear and sneakers. Though there were some men at this spa, the vibe is definitely women-friendly, with everyone sitting in the dining room, freely talking about menopause, hot flashes, weight, books, marriage, divorce, the better-looking masseuses, clogs, and salad dressing.

While I was there, I read one of the best books I've read in a long time, Elissa Schappell's Blueprints for Building Better Girls. This is a collection of short stories, peopled by characters who get older and jump around the country. Many of them know each other. The stories revolve around the demands of female friendship, getting a bad reputation in high school, eating disorders (in girls and boys), rape, female promiscuity, the fraught relationship between mothers and daughters and mothers and teenage sons, infertility, infidelity, rescue dogs, and the bliss (or lack thereof) of marriage and child-rearing. This book was fantastic. It was brilliant, brave, and energizing, Some of it was gut-wrenching. In the middle of the story "Aren't You Dead Yet?," the narrator, a playwright, writes about an aspiring artist she's involved with and a play she'd written that he wanted to read. "I'd never written anything like that, nothing expressly female. Nothing that felt true like that. I mean, nobody cared about that stuff. Ray wanted me to read it to him."

If you are a girl, woman, mother or wife, or know someone who might turn into a mother or wife, read this book. Most of the characters are resilient women who are deeply unnerved by the challenges life has thrown at them. You'll probably relate to a few of them. In the story, "Elephant," two young mothers meet on a playground, exchange life stories and become close friends. This was one of the saddest and most memorable descriptions of the pitfalls of marriage and child-rearing, and the importance of female friendship I've ever read. The story rips your heart out.

I gave one of the stories, "The Joy of Cooking," to a writing class I taught last semester. The story is narrated by a divorced, middle-aged mother, who attempts to give cooking advice to her anorexic daughter. Both mother and daughter cling to each other but are also trying to forge new lives for themselves. For various reasons, none of the students in my class liked the story. I loved it. The mother-daughter jousting felt familiar but fresh and funny. You learn what it's like to be in a clinic for girls with eating disorders. And though there was a sad undercurrent running through the story, it also makes you laugh out loud.

This whole book was pleasantly disturbing. Buy it for yourself or take it out of the library and discuss it with your sister, your mother, your daughter, your book group, your friend.


Saturday, December 24, 2011

Happy Reading, Happy New Year

One of my favorite people in the world is a woman who works three jobs. She teaches religious school at her church, and has a couple of finance jobs on top of that. She also has two kids and they are both athletes so she is always racing from one game to another. This woman is sharp as a tack. Next to her, I look like a slug. Occasionally, she does me the honor of asking for book recommendations. I haven't written about books in a while, so here is the quick and dirty list I sent my friend. If you are still looking for Chanukah and Christmas recommendations to read over the holidays, take a look. Some of these are definitely beach reads, books to take on a plane or a train. Others are great to curl up with during long stretches of downtime. It’s always exciting to take a few new books with you into the New Year. Have a happy one.

NON-FICTION:
Kitchen Confidential, by Anthony Bourdain. Fast-paced memoir about overcoming addictions and working as a chef.
Blood Bones &Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Cook, by Gabrielle Hamilton A lively, beautifully written and sometimes funny memoir by a bisexual married mother who owns the restaurant Prune in NYC. Great read.
Fierce Attachments, by Vivian Gornick. Wonderful memoir about a woman growing up with her mother in post WW II New York. Takes place now and then.
Steve Jobs’ bio, by Walter Isaacson. My husband and younger son read it too. I could not put it down. Really. Make the ghost of Steve Jobs happy and read it on your iPad.
If It was Easy They'd Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon: Living With and Loving the TV-Addicted, Sex-Addicted, Not so Handy Man You Married by Jenna McCarthy. Funny, fast book about being married, written by a friend of a friend. Watch the video that goes with it. You will laugh your butt off. Video is produced by Zestra, a "female stimulant" sold by a entrepreneurial mother from New Jersey. http://www.jennamccarthy.com/zestra.php

FICTION:
The Girl From Charnelle, by K.L. Cook. Novel about teenage girl having affair with married man in Texas. Hot, heavy, excellent. Cook is a great, new talent.
A Visit From the Goon Squad, by Jennifer Egan. Fantastic collection of short stories about connected characters who are involved in the music business and move in and out of each other’s lives. This book is inspiring, giddy and sad. Egan won the Pulitzer Prize for it.  I took one of her writing workshops in graduate school and she was the best professor I had. She’s a wonderful writer and a lovely person. She also dated Steve Jobs for a while. This was one of the best books, ever.
Freedom, by Jonathan Franzen. Long, loving, judgmental look at what it takes to make and break a marriage and a friendship. You stay in these characters’ heads for a good, long time.
What Becomes, by A.L. Kennedy. Slim book of short stories. Intense, moving and occasionally very sad. The writer is also a stand-up comic though these stories aren't funny.
Let the Great World Spin, by Colum McCann. Wonderful short story collections that centers around the Word Trade Centers and looks at a wide range of characters---rich, poor, black, white, male, female, living, dead, married, single, prostitutes, drug addicts, a Park Avenue matron and a high wire artist.
Both Ways is the Only Way I Want It, by Maile Meloy. Book of short stories that is intense, great and full of surprises. Meloy is brilliant at writing about love and its complications.
Point, Click, Love, by Molly Shapiro. She is a friend of a friend and this book is a fun, fast read about what it’s like to be looking for love as a middle aged woman in the Mid-West. You will laugh a lot. It is sold out on Amazon so download on your Kindle or iPad.
Olive Kitteridge, by Elzabeth Strout. Great collection of short stories about connected characters. Strout explores the inner lives of men and women so beautifully. Not many writers can do that. I read this book several years ago and still think about the characters and wonder how they’re doing.
This is Where I Leave You, by Jonathan Tropper. Fast, fun read about a guy whose wife cheats on him with his boss. Great for the beach.

My book group is reading Jeffrey Eugenides’ new novel, The Marriage Plot, now. This book is good, but  Middlesex was much better. This novel is about a love triangle, and the trials and tribulations of three smart, privileged people who graduated from Brown in 1982. You do get caught up in the minutiae of their lives and if you ever thought about majoring in English, this book will make you remember why you did.

Finally I just picked up 101 Things to Learn in Art School, by Kit White. I found this square little book in the beautiful Getty Center in LA, where we are now. The book is covered in black rubber and is really fun to hold and touch. Though it is essentially about making art, and some of it is devoted to perspective and composition, much of what White says can be applied to writing and creating in general. There are pages and pages of inspirational messages, coupled with black-and-white reproductions of famous artists’ work as interpreted by White.  Here are some of my favorite quotes, found on pages 4, 8, 38 and 40:
Art is the product of process. Whether conceptual, experimental, emotional, or formal, the process you develop yields the image you produce. The materials you choose, the methods of production, and the sources of the images should all reflect the interests that command your attention. The process does not stop with each work completed. It is ongoing. The cumulative result of that process is a body of work. 
Art is a continuing dialogue that stretches back through thousands of years. What you make is your contribution to that dialogue. Therefore, be conscious of what has come before you and the conversation that surrounds you. Try not to repeat what has already been said. Study art history and stay alert to the dialogue of your moment.
Complexity derives from the presence of contradiction.  The world is not simple. It is rife with complexity.  the impulse to eliminate the contradictions that create complexity is natural. But to simplify may be to render a false condition and therefore an incomplete description. Embrace the irreconcilable elements, the contradictions. They are part of any portrait of a moment.
Making art is an act of discovery. If you are dealing only with what you know, you may not be doing your job. When you discovery something new, or surprise yourself, you are engaging in the process of discovery.

Merry Christmas and Happy Chanukah. Celebrate it all. 

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

My Inner Fruitcake

I've been mulling over putting together a book of essays about food and family called My Inner Fruitcake. This title was suggested to me by my cousin, Deborah Freedman, a wonderful children's book author whose gorgeous new book, Blue Chicken, is out this month. Debbie is an artist and an architect and the illustrations in this book are breathtaking. When I showed the book to my younger son, he said, "I can't believe someone in our family made this!"

We spend a lot of time thinking about chicken in our family. I've been cooking and writing about chicken a lot, maybe because it's a wonderful thing to make on a cold night. (Needless to say, I've never made fruitcake.) Below is the first of what I'm hoping will be a series of columns for Patch called "Sunday Night Supper," columns that will be about cooking and feeding the people you love and occasionally yell at. Of course, this column is about chicken. If you would like to read more about food and family on Patch, please go to Patch and leave a comment. Thank you!


Sunday Night Supper

Pam Riesenberg teaches a series of weeknight dinner classes for those who want easy and excellent.



I'm not one of these people who stands around making tomato sauce from scratch, but a couple of weeks ago, I realized I needed a steeper learning curve. My kids were back at school, getting new lockers and tackling geometry. I wanted to learn new subjects too. I thought about taking up knitting and bridge, but I knew both activities would require hours of sitting still and using my hands, which I did enough of already as a writer. So I signed up for a cooking class with Pam Riesenberg, figuring I would stand and use my hands.

Pam began teaching cooking classes out of her kitchen three years ago, after working part time at the Kings Cooking Studio. "I started the cooking classes after hearing feedback from those attending that what they really needed are quick and healthy recipes for their families," she says. She now teaches under the aegis of Home Appetit.

The first class of the fall season was billed as a weeknight dinner series that would begin with Meatless Mondays. The class met, appropriately enough, on a Monday. The idea is that on Mondays, you cook without meat, a movement that has turned into a national phenomenon and a website.

On Pam's MM menu were four dishes that all sounded fabulous: Middle Eastern Pizza, Ravioli Lasagna with Spinach, Tempeh Stir Fry with Mushrooms and Sweet & Spicy Tofu with Veggies. I tried to get my friend Debbie to go to the class with me, but she had to work, so I went with my friend Terri, who is one of the most adventurous and ambitious cooks I know. Together, we gathered with two other women for a two-hour class in Pam's kitchen sunny, red-and-white kitchen in Millburn.

I'm not sure what I expected. I just knew I needed to recharge my culinary batteries, and by the end of the class, I had. Pam's kitchen isn't big and she doesn't have a large staff to assist her, which is comforting, because if she can make four different meals in two hours in her space, so can you. Over the course of the class, Pam prepared the dishes and gave us advice on where to go and how to shop. Costco is great for feta cheese but don't buy the fat free version. Whole Foods and Trader Joe's sell excellent pizza dough, as do the major supermarkets. You can be super ambitious and make the pizza dough from scratch, but I did that once and it wasn't worth the effort. My neighbor said she goes by La Strada and gets a ball of pizza dough from them for $4.

Pam showed us how to make tomato sauce from scratch in 20 minutes (use good, canned tomatoes) but said you can also be lazy and use a high-quality tomato sauce for this dish, like Rao's. A couple of other tips from Pam: You can freeze fresh ginger, as long as you mince or grade it first. Sesame oil is perishable but will last four or five months in the refrigerator. Get your knives sharpened at Kitchen a la Mode in South Orange, Kings or William Sonoma at the Mall.

The beautiful moment came at the end of class, when Pam served us lunch. When was the last time someone prepared you a hot lunch in their kitchen and gave you the recipes to go wtih it? It was bliss. The Middle Eastern Pizza, with its delicious combination of eggplant, olives, sun dried tomato slivers and feta cheese, and the Sweet & Spicy Tofu, were my favorites.

A few days later, I went to Whole Foods on a Saturday afternoon to stock up on ingredients for Middle Eastern Pizza. Here is the beautiful thing about going to the supermarket on Saturday: You can sail out your front door saying, "I'm going to the market!" and be sure no one wants to come with you. I easily found everything on Pam's ingredients list except for fresh mint and slivered, sun-dried tomatoes. I bought a basil plant and substituted the mint with basil, and eventually discovered slivered sun-dried tomatoes at the salad bar. (The great thing about buying food off the salad bar is you can weight it and buy exactly the amount you need.)

On Sunday afternoon, while my kids were doing their homework, I set about making the Middle Eastern Pizza. Because my younger son and my husband don't like olives or feta cheese, I poured half of the eggplant, feta and olive combination on one side of the pizza for my older son and me, and put just the tomato sauce and mozzarella cheese on the other side for them. By the end of the meal, we were all fat and happy.

I was feeling pretty good so a few days later, I went back to Pam's for Class #2, this time with Debbie. In the class was a woman I'd gone to Hebrew school with way back when and the sister-in-law of a girl I played soccer with in high school. (That's what you get when you move back to your hometown.)

Over the course of two hours, Pam deftly made four chicken dishes: "Chicken Arturo" (an old-fashioned recipe handed down from Pam's mom that calls for two cans of Arturo Sauce, onions, carrots and dried herbs) Chicken & Rice with Mushrooms (fantastic, see recipe below), Breaded Chicken Cutlets (easy, great for kids) and grilled Lemon Grass Chicken (memorably tasty and excellent for those on a low-fat, high-protein diet.). Pam was clearly in her element: "I could just teach cooking classes and live happily ever after," she said.

Again, Pam showed us what to do and how to do it: For the breaded chicken cutlet, she demonstrated how to thin out thick, boneless, chicken breasts: Open up the chicken breast, flatten it on a washable surface, cover it with saran wrap and pound it out. To bread the cutlet, she used Wondra, a fine, light flour, which I had never seen before, and which made the cutlets taste ever so slightly fried and gave them a nice crunch - like a healthy chicken finger. Pam ended up giving us more than chicken recipes that day: When one of the women said her teenage son liked to eat a lot of steak and she needed a new way to cook it for him, Pam ran to find a quick recipe for flank steak marinade and read it off to us: Three tablespoons balsamic vinegar, two tablespoons soy sauce, two tablespoons olive oil, one talbespoon sugar, one teaspoon garlic powder, 1/2 teaspoon salt or paprkika. Marinade for two hours to overnight. (I can vouch for this recipe: I made it last Tuesday night and it was terrific.)

All the chicken dishes were easy and excellent, and I figured I would make the chicken cutlets first and use that super fine flour she introduced to us, but by the time Sunday rolled around, I hadn't gotten around to buying superfine flour and when I opened up the freezer, I saw that we didn't have boneless chicken breasts either. We did have a large package of frozen chicken parts so I defrosted them, just in time to discover that we didn't have peas, mushrooms or Carolina rice. Oh dear. But we did have basmati rice. My grandmother used to make a chicken and rice dish that didn't rely on any vegetables and it was always good so I adapted Pam's recipe, skipping the veggies, substituting the basmati rice for Carolina and hoped for the best. It happened, this dish is flexible and superb. The rice was crunchy and delicious, and if you like standing in the kitchen, and scraping spoonfuls of rice off the bottom of a pot when no one is looking, this dish is for you. My younger son, who doesn't normally like chicken-on-the-bone, said, "This is really good, Mom, this is fantastic," and had seconds. High praise coming from him. My older son also loved it. My husband had four helpings, and when some chicken and rice fell off the counter and onto my foot, our dog was all over it.

I'm going back to Pam's for a fish class next Wednesday. See you there.

Home Appetit classes are $45/class. For more information, contact Pam Riesenberg, Home Appetit, pamfood@aol.com, 973 467-2633.

Middle Eastern Pizza

Sauce Ingredients

1 Tbsp. EV Olive Oil

1 small Onion, chopped

2 Garlic cloves, chopped

1 28-oz. can Whole San Marzano Tomatoes (or 2-14oz cans)

Kosher Salt/Pepper or Hot Pepper Flakes, to taste

Pizza Ingredients

4 Tbsp. EV Olive Oil

1 lb. Prepared Pizza Dough, at room temp.

1 medium Eggplant, peeled & cubed (in 1/2 inch pieces, about 5 cups)

1 Large Red Onion, thinly sliced

1 tsp. Ground Cumin

4 Cloves Garlic, minced or crushed

8 oz. Fresh Mozzarella Cheese, diced

¼ Cup Pitted Kalamata Olives, chopped

½ Cup Oil-Packed Sun Dried Tomato Slivers

¾ Cup Feta Cheese, crumbled (6 oz package)

Fresh Mint, to garnish (optional)

Preparation instructions:

1. Preheat oven to 450 degrees.

2. To make sauce- Heat olive oil in a saucepan over medium heat. Add onion and cook until soft, about 5 minutes. Add the garlic & tomatoes and cook until thickened, about 20 minutes. (Partially cover) Season with S/P.

3. To make pizza- Drizzle a rimmed baking sheet with 1-2 Tbsp. olive oil and stretch pizza dough to fill the pan. Brush the dough with olive oil and bake 10-15 minutes, (on bottom shelf) until golden.

4. Meanwhile, in a large skillet, heat 1 Tbsp. olive oil over medium high. Add the eggplant, red onion, cumin, garlic, and cook about 15 minutes, until eggplant is tender.

5. Top the pizza crust with 1 cup sauce, the mozzarella, eggplant & onion mixture, olives, sun-dried tomatoes and feta. Return pizza to oven and cook 15-20 minutes, or until cheese is melted.

6. Remove pizza from oven & top with fresh mint. Slice & serve.

7. Serve with a salad of mixed greens with lemon/olive oil dressing or Tahina.

Chicken and Rice

Ingredients

2 Whole Chicken Breasts, split in half (4 pieces-about 2 ½ lb)

Salt/Pepper

2 Tbsp. Olive Oil

1 Medium Onion, Chopped

2 Cloves Garlic, Minced

1 Package (6-8oz) Whole or Sliced Mushrooms (slice, if whole)

1 Bay Leaf

½ Cup Dry White Wine (or Dry White Vermouth)

½ Cup uncooked Rice (Carolina)

1 ½ Cups Chicken Broth

1 tsp. Paprika

Optional: ½ Cup Frozen Peas, Defrosted

Garnish: Chopped Parsley

Salt/Pepper, to taste

Preparation Instructions

1. Sprinkle chicken with salt and pepper.

2. Heat over medium high, add 2 tsp. oil in a large sauté pan and add chicken pieces, skin side down. Brown about 5 minutes and turn over.

3. Scatter the onion and garlic between (not on top) the chicken pieces and add the mushrooms and bay leaf. Cook 5 minutes.

4. Add the wine and cook until it is almost all evaporated, 1 minute. Add the rice and broth (rice should not be on top of chicken pieces), and paprika. Bring to a boil, than lower heat to a simmer, cover the pan and cook about 20 minutes or until rice is tender.

5. Remove from heat, add peas if using and cover pan for 5 minutes.

6. Can garnish with chopped parsley. Season with salt & pepper.

7. Serve with: mixed green salad & crusty bread.